What does the Bible say about marriage and communication? The Bible has much to say about communication, all of which is good to apply to your marriage. For example, read Proverbs 25:11-15:
“(11) A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. (12) Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold is a wise rebuke to an obedient ear. (13) Like the cold of snow in time of harvest is a faithful messenger to those who send him, for he refreshes the soul of his masters. (14) Whoever falsely boasts of giving is like clouds and wind without rain. (15) By long forbearance a ruler is persuaded, and a gentle tongue breaks a bone.”
Verses 11 and 12 talk about choosing your words wisely and how to pick the right timing to communicate those words effectively. These things are important in all communication, especially when it comes to dealing with a spouse.
Verse 13 talks about choosing to speak in a way that is encouraging and builds the other up. Whenever we choose to be gracious, thankful, and complimentary when talking with our spouses, we are choosing to create in them a sense of worth, peace, and security in the marriage relationship.
Verse 14 speaks to those who embellish the truth or just say things they think others want to hear so they can move on to their own agendas. Such speech is not only harmful to the relationship but will become hurtful as the truth eventually reveals itself.
Verse 15 teaches us about patience and gentleness. Whenever we allow pride to dictate our communication, we fail in several areas. However, if we are patient and allow what has been discussed to take root, sometimes the situation heals itself without a word. On other occasions, it may mean being patient enough to come back to a conversation with a more loving and more humble attitude. It is then that a soft word can break down a hard barrier.
Here are two more verses that deal with wise communication in marriage:
"So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath” (James 1:19).
“Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers” (Ephesians 4:29).
